How to deal with Hypocrites

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Chapter 1: Identifying a Hypocrite

 In our lifetime we all encounter that one person; whether it be a friend, a co-worker, a family member or some crazy ass neighbor who’s a flat out hypocrite. This is a guide on how to deal with a lying ass, bitch ass, faking ass hypocrite. The word hypocrite can be defined in various ways:

 1. A person who pretends to have virtues, moral or religious beliefs, principles, etc., that he or she does not actually possess, especially a person whose actions belie stated beliefs.

 2. A person who feigns some desirable or publicly approved attitude, especially one whose private life, opinions, or statements belie his or her public statements.

 3. A person who claims or pretends to have certain beliefs about what is right but who behaves in a way that disagrees with those beliefs

 4. A person who acts in contradiction to his or her stated beliefs or feelings And so forth.

 The term hypocrite is derived from the Greek term hypokritḗs which literally means one who pretends to be what he is not. How can we identify a hypocrite? Easy they do it themselves. They say they want to “lose weight” yet you always see them at them at “fast food joints”. They say they’ll “try to be nicer” but yet they still “act like drag queens”. Oh and my personal favorite the one who tries to pass “righteous judgment” on people yet they be “creeping on the DL”. Really everybody you know is a damn hypocrite, they act all high and mighty someone needs to wake them the hell up and have them smell the roses. Personally the way I see it, there are five steps when it comes to dealing with hypocrites. Identifying a hypocrite is the first step into dealing with the bastards. 

Chapter 2: Keeping good Company

 I had asked two good friends of mine if they thought that hypocrites made good company. One friend said that it depended if the persons could tolerate each other or not, here’s what he said “The hypocrite is one we mostly don’t like because it contradicts the effort we put in our own work. However, they stick around. We do not chase them because we tolerate them.” My other good friend had this to say on whether hypocrites made good company. “That varies to the extent of how long you want them as “friends”. Hypocrites occasionally are good “short term” friends. People who are sincere are “long term” friends.” I had asked him if he would tolerate one and he said. “Yes and no. Hypocrites I definitely would tolerate. However just because an individual is liable or has the tendency to lie doesn’t diminish their capability to change.” So why don’t hypocrites make good company because if I wasn’t clear enough in the first chapter I’ll be happy to state it again, a hypocrite is a lying ass, bitch ass, faking ass motherfucker, meaning they can’t be trusted and they shouldn’t be trusted . I don’t care if it’s your best friend or your girlfriend/boyfriend you don’t trust a hypocrite. I have this other friend who I pissed off because I hurt her feelings, and before the incident we were really close. After the hurting of her feelings she started distancing herself from me and started hanging out with a shady group of guys, now these “guys” are some chill guys but they are bad company especially for her, who just got out of a relationship, and is an emotional wreck though she hides and denies it. Now before her shady group new “friends” she hung out with me, my best friend, and my “weed” friend, and we would all chill and everything was all “G” we would make fun of each other, laugh, and we worked well with each other. Then came along the hurt feelings, and the new friends who I know don’t give a rats’ ass about her well-being. What point I’m trying to get across is that she had good company and now she has “them” I just hope she realizes this before it’s too late, I may come off as bitchy but at least my hearts in the right place. Keeping good company is similar to choosing the right social circle; surround you with people that can and will contribute to the cause, whatever the cause. 

Chapter 3: Denial

Rarely will one admit to being a hypocrite, but almost everyone will deny being one. We can define “Denial” as “the action of declaring something to be untrue.”  Denial is probably one of the best known defense mechanisms, used often to describe situations in which people seem unable to face reality or admit an obvious truth (i.e. "He's in denial."). Denial is an outright refusal to admit or recognize that something has occurred or is currently occurring. Drug addicts or alcoholics often deny that they have a problem, while victims of traumatic events may deny that the event ever occurred.

Denial functions to protect the ego from things that the individual cannot cope with. While this may save us from anxiety or pain, denial also requires a substantial investment of energy. Because of this, other defenses are also used to keep these unacceptable feelings from consciousness.

In many cases, there might be overwhelming evidence that something is true, yet the person will continue to deny its existence or truth because it is too uncomfortable to face.

Denial can involve a flat out rejection of the existence of a fact or reality. In other cases, it might involve admitting that something is true, but minimizing its importance. Sometimes people will accept reality and the seriousness of the fact, but they will deny their own responsibility and instead blame other people or other outside forces.

Addiction is one of the best-known examples of denial. People who are suffering from a substance abuse problem will often flat-out deny that their behavior is problematic. In other cases, they might admit that they do use drugs or alcohol, but will claim that this substance abuse isn’t a problem. 

hypocrites in denial are some of the most hard headed people you'll ever meet so it'll be best to avoid them if its even possible.

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