Harry Potter Vs Twilight!

Edward Cullen Is Abusive?!

According to the National Domestic Violence hotline, these are some signs that you may be in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship.

Does your partner:
* Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
Check.

* Control what you do, who you see or talk to or where you go?
"Stay away from the werewolves. I love you."

* Make all of the decisions?
Check.

* Act like the abuse is no big deal, it's your fault, or even deny doing it?
"If I wasn't so attracted to you, I wouldn't have to break up with you."

* Threaten to commit suicide?
"I just can't live without you. In fact, I'll run to Italy and try suicide by vampire if anything happens to you."

* Threaten to kill you?
On their first date.

Has your partner...
* Tried to isolate you from family or friends.
He took apart her truck in order for her to not see her friends

* Damaged property when angry (thrown objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.).
Check.

* Pushed, slapped, bitten, kicked or choked you.
Does tossing her through a glass table count?

* Abandoned you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place.
"We're breaking up. And I'm leaving you in the forest."

* Scared you by driving recklessly.
Check.

* Forced you to leave your home.
She had to run away with him to flee from the other vampires in the first movie, and she had to drop everything and run to Italy in the second.

* Prevented you from calling police or seeking medical attention.
Check. Even in the hospital, nothing is a big deal.

* Views women as objects and believes in rigid gender roles.
Check

* Accuses you of cheating or is often jealous of your outside relationships.
Check, wolf-boy.

Now I'm pissed. According to the NDVH, "If you answered ‘yes' to even one of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship." This list is fifteen.

Many twilighters may argue with this and say he is not abusive as he has never hit her. But abuse isn't just physical. 

An abusive relationship is an interpersonal relationship characterized by the use or threat of physical or psychological abuse. Abusive relationships are often characterized by jealousy, emotional withholding, a lack of intimacy, infidelity, sexual coercion, verbal abuse, broken promises, physical violence, control games and power plays.

Jealousy: More than anything, Edward’s defining characteristic is in fact his jealousy. It is his jealousy that begins their relationship and generally instigates his abusive acts. Edward admits following the incident with Bella’s engine that the main reason for not wanting Bella to see Jacob was in fact his prejudice and jealousy. This is hardly his only instance of jealousy, rather an example. Another example would be what begins their relationship: it is only after Tyler, Eric and Mike have asked Bella to the spring dance that Edward decides to again speak to her, thus pursuing a relationship.

Emotional Withholding: Edward and Bella are supposed to share this incredible, transcendent relationship, which is completely undermined by the fact that rather than discuss his fears and uncertainties, Edward chooses to leave Bella at the beginning of New Moon. While it isn’t a crime to end a relationship, Edward chose to do so in such a cruel and unusual manner, instead of explaining his feelings and emotions, which makes it an abusive act.

Lack of Intimacy: The intimacy issue is trickier when it comes to Edward and Bella. In terms of physical intimacy, Edward is in control of every single chaste kiss and withholds sex, which is incredibly controlling. His withholding of sex is supposedly an attempt to protect her, but it is negated by the fact that he’s more than willing to sleep with her once they’re married, even though she’ll still be a puny, fragile human. A human who would still be hurt, regardless of their marital status.

Sexual Coercion: Again, Edward controls every aspect of their sexual lives, against Bella’s protests. Edward's refusal to have sex before marriage is not about moral boundaries, but rather about conning Bella into doing everything else his way: he starts to have sex with her, then stops, using that as an argument to force her to marry him. He also witholds sex within marriage, at which point there is no excuse.

Broken Promises: At the end of Twilight, Edward promises to stay with Bella, no matter what. Yet at the beginning of New Moon, he massively overreacts and leaves Bella in an unnecessarily cruel way, thus breaking that promise and rendering Bella suicidal. It may not be traditionally abusive, but it is unreasonably damaging.

Control Games and Power Plays: All of the above points, as well as points that will be addressed below, serve to prove that Edward is controlling. Edward is the dominant partner in this relationship, while Bella is completely submissive, which does not make a good relationship. It simply is not healthy and is not a representation of an equal partnership, nor a great love that transcends the ages.

And don't even get me started on Jacob. He sexually assaulted Bella and what's worse is that her father, who may I remind you is a COP,  encouraged him!