Acknowledgments
I thank my wife, Bonnie, for sharing the journey of developing this book with me. 1 thank her
for allowing me to share our stories and especially for expanding my understanding and ability
to hon or the female point of view.
1 thank our three daughters, Shannon, Julie, and Lauren, for their continued love and
appreciation. The challenge of being a parent has allowed me to understand the struggles my
parents had and love them even more. Being a father has especially assisted me in
understanding and loving my father.
I thank my father and mother for their loving efforts to raise a family of seven children. 1 thank
my oldest brother, David, for understanding my feelings and admiring my words. 1 thank my
brother Williarn for motivating me to higher achievements. 1 thank my brother Robert for all
the long and interesting conversations we had until dawn and for his brilliant ideas, from
which I always benefit. I thank my brother Tom for his encouragement and positive spirit. 1
thank my sister Virginia for believing in me and appreciating my seminars. I thank my
deceased younger brother Jimmy for his love and admiration, which continue to support me
through my difficult times.
I thank my agent Patti Breitman, whose help, brilliant creativity, and enthusiasm have guided
this book from its conception to its completion. I thank Carole Bidnick for her inspired support
at the beginning of this project. I thank Susan Moldow and Nancy Peske for their
expert feedback and advice. I thank the staff at HarperCollins for their continued
responsiveness to my needs.
I thank all the thousands who participated in my relationship serninars, shared their stories,
and encouraged me to write this book. Their positive and loving feedback has supported me in
developing this simple presentation of such a complex subject.
I thank my clients who have shared their struggles so intimately and trusted my assistance in
their journey.
I thank Steve Martinea u for his skillful wisdom and influence, which can be found sprinkled
through this book.
I thank my different promoters, who have put their hearts and souls into producing the john
Gray Relationship Seminars where this material was tried, tested, and developed: Elley and Ian
Coren in Santa Cruz; Debra Mudd, Gary and Helen Francell in Honolulu; Bill and Judy Elbring
in San Francisco; David Obstfeld and Fred Kliner in Washington, D.C.; Elizabeth Kling in
Baltimore; Clark and Dottie Bartell in Seattle; Michael Najarian in Phoenix; Gloria Manchester
in L.A.; Sandee Mac in Houston; Earlene Carrillo in Las Vegas; David Farlow in San Diego; Bart
and Merril Jacobs in Dallas; and Ove Johliansson and Ewa Martensson in Stockholm.
1 thank Richard Cohen and Cindy Black at Beyond Words Publishing for their loving and
