BITS OF EMAAN

Arguments

Shaitaan is the first ever creature to start arguing. This proves that how bad of a habbit arguing is.

When Allah asked shaitaan to do sajdah to Aadham(PBUH) he dared to argue with Allah. So it is really advisable to keep yourself as much as away from arguments.

For which Allah rewards with a great prize.

Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: "Whoever does not argue when he is in the wrong will have a home built for him on the edge of Paradise. Whoever avoids it when he in the right will have a home built for him in the middle of Paradise. And whoever improves his own character, a home will be built for him in the highest part of Paradise." [Tirmidhi]

Arguing with people is strongly discouraged in Islam. We are to state our point of view and then leave it at that. Nor are we to involve ourselves in matters that do not affect a person's deen. Note that a person is to shun argument whether he is in the right or whether his stand is wrong. Both get houses built for them in Paradise. But since the person who knows that he is right finds it more difficult to leave the argument and let things be, he/she is promised a greater reward.

Arguing with people rarely gets anyone to change their minds. It usually only produces defensiveness and creates ill feelings between people. The issue becomes a matter of one's ego and makes it more difficult for a person to change their stance. Allah (subhana wa ta'ala) loves to have Muslims live harmoniously with each other. Try this hadith out in practice, and you will see that your relations improve with people and that you have greater peace of mind.

Personally, I believe that to be a bigger person is to perfectly represent this hadith. That doesn't mean to be bigger in sense of pride or knowledge, but to back down in an argument, to be humble and pious and to apologize if needed.

Ask yourself this question always before an argument: Who are you trying to prove yourself to?

Your family?

Yourself?

Allah?

Know that God knows what is in your heart and what you truly believe, that you yourself know what you believe is the truth, so who else matters?

Nobody.

Although family is an extremely important part of Islam, you do not have to prove yourself to them; this hadith is saying that if you know that what you are saying is true then the argument is unnecessary. God will reward your patience more than He will do in your argument.

I pray that you all find this helpful in your faith and journey to and on Islam, that this hadithguides you and provides you with inspiration and a goal to achieve in the afterlife.